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LET GO AND LET GOD



''To err is human to forgive is divine" - Alexander Pope

The subject of Forgiveness is a very touchy one, everyone will admit to this fact errm well except Jesus Christ who is perfect. But if you are human like me let us get real; it is the most difficult thing to do. When someone hurts you, the most common feeling you have Is hurt, Pain, Anger, Resentment and the list is endless Forgiveness is not one of them. It is such a hard pill to swallow but as I grow each day, I have come to realise that forgiving someone is not for the person. It has little or nothing to do with the offender but everything to do with Me. Forgiveness sets you free from bitterness and prolonged hurt and i know it's easier said than done but i try to be more practical and less theoritical.I know It is not a walk in the park especially as sometimes the only thing I want to do is watch the person suffer for hurting me Lol. Hi5 to everyone reading this and thinking 'yeah yeah'. I have been through somethings in my short stay here on earth and everyday I am on a journey to better myself, I will like to share some of the quotes that I have come to adapt and live with when faced with the difficulty of forgiving someone who wronged me. In the picture above is Nelson Mandela. he is one person I would love to meet before my life is over. I know he is well advanced in years and I am probably running out of time but it is still at the top of my list. 'Madiba' as he is fondly called has impacted my life so much. He is a true hero and a leader. This man has lived his entire life forgiving the people who wronged him and his famous quote on forgiveness is very apt!

"Resentment is like a glass of poison that a man drinks;then he sits down and waits for his enemy to die" - Nelson Mandela

This touches my heart so much. how can you drink a cup of poison and wait for the one who hurt you to die from what you drank. Bitterness is poison. bitterness is as a result of un forgiveness. the person has moved forward in his/her life and you are a prisoner to the pain they caused you. Let today be the last day you spend drinking that poison. Let it go. Make that call today, Smile more now, Pray for the peace of God to eradicate any trace of pain from your heart.

Oprah Winfrey is also one of my role models and if you have followed her life very closely you would know all about the abuse in her childhood She managed to turn all that negativity to success. It must not have been easy but she has done a pretty fine job and you can do the same today. Holding on to the past pain limits your vision make it your duty to defeat the pain. I am a huge fan of Oprah's quote on forgiveness it stills my heart each time I speak the words.

"Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different, it is accepting the past for what it is and using this moment and this time to help yourself move forward" - Oprah 

Need i say more? The future is in your hands. Do not be a victim or a slave to your past. Stop wishing you had a different Mother, Father or Sibling. Stop wishing he didn't work out on you, Stop wishing you did more. It is what it is. Move On and be Happy

Enjoy
TM
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IN THE WORLD OF THE CRAZIES....


I call them the crazies because the only word that comes to my mind when I ponder on the events that have taken place this week in the lives of these Hollywood superstars, It can only be tagged CRAZY! So Chris Brown finally ended his relationship with Miss Karreuche Tran to pursue what he calls a friendship with Rihanna. OK! Every one knows they have been more than friends for a while now and this article is not to examine the friendship; we all know thats just BS. My very good friend sent me a long message that inspired me and  I have decided to share it on my blog to inspire someone that might be in a crazy vicious cycle of madness like these 3 above so here we go

Rihanna: The irony of the  girl who has everything money can buy but lacks Self-esteem which is free. Chris Brown wronged her but instead of him to be genuflecting for her, she's the one who wooed him back. Right after the beating of her life he gave her she went back, he messed up again and she left. She is the one who chased him, declaring undying love before the whole world. What are his public statements about her? Has he ever said he loses his cool when he sees her and that she's the love of his life? Even his break-up statement says he loves Karreuche very much. Please can he say that about Rihanna for a change? Rather he said she's been passed around the industry, she deleted him from twitter only to follow him again. Her songs after the beating were pained lost love songs while his was deuces, pretty much eff you.
 I followed this because I am well interested in Domestic Violence and this is a deep socio-cultural issue. What is it about black women that makes most of us accept rubbish where we are supposed to demand respect? Rihanna is following a ghastly tradition of Black Divas with self-hatred issues; Billy Holiday, Dorothy Dandridge, Tami Terrel, Whitney Houston all seemed to wear "my man mistreats me but he's mine" as a badge of Honour. I think it is sick and it sets a bad example for the Rihannas of this world as she is setting a bad example for all those coming after her as well as the poor kids who idolise her. I  mean, he tattooed a battered womans face on his neck. We have all done things we're ashamed of  so let me ask you to recall one. Would you tattoo It on your neck? Ofcourse not. You only do that if you have no remorse. If it is to remind him not to mess up again why could he not honour her by putting a positive image on his neck. 
Back to the socio-cultural thing, It is an extension of the willingness of black women to take crap with pride that Africa is so backward. Women will take it from an authority figure, their man. The men will take it from an authority figure, government. It's a mess and seems to be the way we're programmed. No wonder Marley said, "Emancipate yourself from mental slavery". Both Rihanna and Chris witnessed their mothers being beaten. The result is that what should be horrific becomes banal. It is actually a good thing that they're back together to spare 2 other people from their Dysfunction. My hope for them and everyone else in this kind of abusive cycle is that they find peace and happiness. I hope that they can help each other get help, sail off into sunset and live happily ever after  LOL.

What do you guys think? 
I personally Love Rihanna and i worry that if she is happy again her music career would tank. i mean, the sadness made her music sweeter. (selfish of me i know)

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Unbelievable!!!  'Miley And The Man I Call Mine'

That  is exactly how i felt when I heard that the man of my dreams recently got hitched oh should i say is getting Hitched. Well, rumour has it (Stop it Toke, It is confirmed, he is gone) that Lil Miley is engaged to Liam Hemsworth. Now that is a huge problem for me because i believe he is mine. To be honest I am totally obsessed with the Hemsworth Brothers "who isn't" just look at Liam. I always say I don't believe I belong here, I think I should be in LA mehn At least probably/maybe Liam Hemsworth would have found me and we would live happily through the days. (notice my lack of "ever after' well its Hollywood lets just say these people get bored with the thought of ever afters! To answer your question yes this is Miley the Bitch who stole my man, in my head i have killed her a thousand times... Lol and to think I was a fan of Hannah Montana oh well lets just say she's all grown up now. 


Stop this Madness..... Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds Too

Now this is way too much for me to accept. First off I must have been existing under a huge rock because for the life of me I didn't even know these two were an item till very recently. To be honest they are both undeniably good looking but doesn't this girl sound like she's got hot yams in her mouth? Yes, my friends that is what Jealousy smells off. I mean, I had a massive unending crush on Ryan and this is how he repays me? Lol I promise you all i am not crazy. These two got married SECRETLY do you guys think he is not happy? Maybe thats why he didn't let the world know. Maybe he doesn't love her and i am beginning to sound like a Stalker. Ok Guys share with me, Is there any Celebrity guy/girl you've ever crushed on? Married? Single? The magic word on this blog is SHARE

Hope You all had a great start to the week, Just checking In

Enjoy
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9 comments:

  1. *sigh* black ppl n their twisted notion abt love

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  2. hmmmm... Sis toke this is my first time on ur blog,and my aim is 'TO COME AND GO' but now Na 'TO COME AND STAY'. Big up to u.. And Nice one have never seen a celeb in Nigeria that is so trutful like U. Pls be my mentor.
    www.odulowo.blogspot.com
    www.mavinlowo.blogspot.com

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  3. hmmmm... Sis toke this is my first time on ur blog,and my aim is 'TO COME AND GO' but now Na 'TO COME AND STAY'. Big up to u.. And Nice one have never seen a celeb in Nigeria that is so trutful like U. Pls be my mentor.
    www.odulowo.blogspot.com
    www.mavinlowo.blogspot.com

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  4. Ewodage dumebi8 April 2013 18:01

    lol, Toke and her HollyWood crushes!. well iv admired a few of them but never really crushed on any. okay,i really like your article on forgiveness and i can totally relate to it coz i know that forgiving someone who's hurt you, is never the first thing on your mind. iv had countless experiences and trust me i battle with letting go. but iv come to a point where i now understand the value of forgiveness and how much inner peace it buys you; although many times you'll need the grace of God..that has helped alot.
    You're good at what you do..big ups girl!

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  5. your work is nice and prety innovative , I would like to advice that you would consider creating syndicated write ups on relationship In addition to the vlog


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  6. i felt exactly the same way when i heard about blake n ryan

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  7. well done Toke. just came across your blog.vlog. well done

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  8. this life thou. we never can tell. love is just too strong and powerful if it is real.

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  9. you've got an amazing blog really. first time on it and i love it.

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